Choose Joy

” Joy does not simply happen to us.  We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.”  Henri Nouwen

“With every new day is the opportunity to choose joy. “

This writing which I wrote in 2011 and is in Tuning In To Spirit turns up time after time on our morning meditation conference call so it dawned on me I was meant to share it with all of you again as well so here it is. If you would like to join us on the meditation call, the information is on the right. Also under the writing is a beautiful poem titled Reclaiming Joy written by my beloved God daughter, Carma Lee Pawlewicz.

With love, Patricia

Joy can be a fleeting thing in this world here on Earth and yet it is waiting around every corner for us to choose.  Stress too can be waiting around every corner when we choose to worry or think things “should” not be as they are.  The moment we resist “what is”, we are stressed because resistance starts pumping emotions through our body about what we think we should do, who we should call, what’s on our plate for the day to do.  It can be compelling because it is all around us in living color.

Our phones ring, our computer blinks its many messages about what’s out there and what we need to do about it.  Thoughts of wouldn’t it be wonderful to go for a walk, sit and relax and look out the window at the change of season, take some time to read a book all fly out the window as our minds begin to race and we take on the pace of the day.  This way of life feeds our stress level.

When we quiet our mind and take a deep breath, we can choose to focus on the joy that is present like an inner stream.  Breathing in the peace of knowing in the grand scheme of things all is well is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves.  We really don’t have to have our hand in every pie that crosses our table.  We can leave some for someone else and taste only that which calls to our deepest heart.

We have time for so much when we stop and take a moment to breathe in peace and breathe out stress.  Take a moment now to close your eyes and breathe  in, “I am living a beautiful and fulfilling life.  I am happy and at peace.”  Even if it does not feel true right now, what would that look like for you?  Feel that for a moment and keep breathing into it.

Have  a lovely day and pick the pieces of pie that feed your soul and are truly for your highest good.  Your heart will tell you so much about what is for your highest good.  When you choose your highest good, your heart will sing with joy rather than feeling oppressed and overwhelmed.  In the long run it will also prove to be for the highest good of others too.

Reclaiming Joy by Carma Lee Pawlewicz

I take a deep breath, release it and pray:

 Dear God, help me to put my “To Do” list aside

and let a relaxed mind be my guide.

Stay in the moment, no worries; just peace.

This is when I feel the pressure decrease.

So much time is lost on worry and regret.

As I end this prayer, this intention I set:

I reclaim the joy

I sometimes lose sight of

when I’m caught up in my “To do’s”

but today in spite of

ALL that I think

I have to do

I put myself first


to myself be TRUE.

 From my heart to yours,

Carma Lee


Beloved Guides, I am benefitting from A Course in Miracles with a major clearing and “seeing” what is actually happening in every area of my life, especially seeing me in action with giving people advice.  Dr. Caroline Myss said in her book, Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, “Don’t complain, don’t explain and don’t give advice.”  I see that I have been explaining and giving advice for years.   Every time someone says something about what is going wrong or anything that sounds like they are asking for help, I get involved and give advice.  Now I see that is not the way to stay clear of this world of chaos and drama. There is a better way.  I invite you to share on this so we can move into a deeper way of “seeing” and living.

This is what I received in answer to my question.

Well, it is a gem of an idea to not complain, explain or give advice.  However, it is the way of the world here on planet earth to do just that and to even go further by trying to convince people of your way of thinking and seeing the world.  It is also the way for all of you to really get caught in this world and go deeper and deeper into it instead of extricating yourselves from it. 

You can choose to stop right now.  The power of choice is always yours.  Where you allow your thoughts to dwell is what determines everything around you. Remember this, your mind is part of God’s Mind and because of that you are really, really, very holy.  Take that in and be with it for a moment right now. Your mind is part of God’s Mind and you are very holy.  What does that mean?  It means that you have the gift of being able to dwell in God’s Mind even when people are calling for advice or anything at all that happens around you. 

You get to choose to stay in that wonderful clear space of being in God’s Mind and that makes everything you see holy because God’s Mind is holy.   After a while you don’t have to choose.  You simply do not see it.  You see only the holiness because you are dwelling in the peaceful holy Mind of God. 

Now that is definitely a happier place for you to live and to stay.  You really can stay there as long as you do not get caught in the trap of trying to help people with the thought that they need to be fixed in some way. 

So, let us make this even clearer by saying it again.  You can be of greater service by simply seeing them as they are, holy like you, and everything becomes holy because you see it as so.  You see the person or situation they are having a challenge with and them and you as absolutely holy. You don’t venture into the area that sees yourself or the others as not holy, as making all these mistakes with all the challenges.   You let it simply be without climbing into it.  Peace finds its way into the situation because you are at peace within yourself and that is what you bring to the person, to the situation, to the world. That is your gift.

You start by simply asking the Holy Spirit, or whatever you call your own inner guide, for help in that moment and rest and listen.  Be with the person or situation in a place of total openness to the H.S. and you will know it is simply your job to be there because that is where you find yourself. 

However, you no long choose to get embroiled in drama in other people’s or your own.  You simply be with them resting in God’s mind which is absolute perfection and you rest there with them.  You may not realize it but that is the greatest gift you can give them and you.  Because you are staying clear of all that is unlike peace and staying in peace and being in a place of openness to hear the divine guidance that comes from within you. You are not in the problem.  You are in the mind of God that is within you and ready to speak to you in a moment if you are willing to listen. 

So, go in peace giving this way of being a chance so you see the fruits of what happens when you just let go, truly let go, and let God, like so many other wise beings of light have said before.